Post-Graduate Dating: The Setup
by Melissa Lomas Professional dating: that almost sounds like a class you can take in college. And for some of us, it might should probably have been a required course. As you show up for a date, all dressed up, expectations high, anticipations of what the evening might hold run through your head, and then you see him for the first time. Yes, that's right, your blind date. Somehow graduating from college, where meeting people was easy, forces you into a situation with a guy stuck in the seventies and cannot carry a conversation to save his life. You have nothing in common. How you got set up with this guy, you will never know. Instead of paying attention to your date, you find it more rewarding to mentally strangle the friend that even thought this guy would make a good match for you! Before you know it, you find yourself at home by 10:30 looking at magazines and eating frozen yogurt. How can this be your life? Well it starts like this:
When going to a bar or mingling with other singles, a woman wonders, how do I slip in the question of "What do you do for a living?" without trying to sound shallow. There is a checklist we girls go through. I know some girls may not want to admit it, but this is how it goes. A woman begins by asking herself, is this man worth my time? Does he live with his mother at the age of 27? Does he have a ten-year plan? Do I see myself in this plan?
Men have a more simplified checklist: Is she hot? Does she make me laugh? Is she hot? Is she hot?
Men have a plan to conquer corporate America. Women have a plan to conquer the men that want to conquer corporate America. Men want a trophy wife, and women want security.
Now I know I am categorizing, but I have about 20 single friends that ask all the same questions when trying to get set up. From the men: Is she hot? Can you set me up with your friend? And from the women: What does he do? What does he drive? Where does he live?
Now lets take time and reflect on this. The girl you are asking to set you up with her HOT friend is probably the smart, funny as hell, dedicated girl who is going to see past all the crap you are trying to pull. Might I suggest you take a look at her? The conversation there might be a little bit more stimulating. I am not saying that all attractive women are bimbos. I am just saying that if the girl (i.e. the friend) has had to survive on her personality, it is probably a damn good one!
And hey women, why not get to know that guy that doesn't have the ever so nice car. You never know, maybe he is saving for his family. Maybe he is the funny great guy that you want to give your heart to. My point being, as cliché' as this sounds, don't judge someone by how they look or what they drive. You never know, that great friend you have could be (dare I say it) "The One." Post-Graduate Dating: Yes You Can |
